Mambo T-Shirt Philosophy

Those Mambo T-Shirts say “Make Love, Not War”. Southpark says "Make Love, not Warcraft". A mature love most certainly will not look like war. But I suspect that, particularly at the beginning, they aren't so different. Instead, there is simply passion, and arousal, and this could go either way. In and towards somebody special, somebody who might be a passionate love of yours, I think there is respect, fear, aggression, defeat/conquest, surrender, humiliation, occupation, and always a trace of possessiveness. All of these are military-related.
Even between the greatest of enemies there is often a connection, a passion. The outbreak of war between neighbours is usually a failure or strangulation of that connection. "A woman is like a violin - held tight, she is played by the man, who is the bow. He must know how to play her correctly to make her vibrate to the tunes that both she and he want to hear. And to do so, he must master her". Not as a dog, but he must understand her and let her know that she needs him as much as he her. Traditionalist, perhaps, but I suppose that's how it works for me.